In Memory of Shelton Kang

We have lost a true friend and fellow marathoner. Shelton went to join his dear wife Linda on March 28, I am sure we'll still be hearing their cheers from Heaven. His heart was always full of joy for others, his spirit of encouragement brought many a runner across the finish line. In the picture above, Shelton is cheering us on way up in the Bronx at mile 20.5 of NYCM2001. Only six weeks after the tragedy of 9/11, Shelton is displaying the love for life and caring for others that buoyed the hearts of all of us that came in contact with him.

He earned his medals too, but he meant so much more to us that just being a fellow marathoner. God Bless you Shelton, we feel the joy as you come face to face with Him.

Shelton taking pictures at Daniel's pre-NYCM dinner in 2002.

Shelton and Linda planning their Scream Duties before NYCM 2001.

From the running lists:


Memorial Fund being set up for Shelton:

We've decided to create a Columbus Metroparks fund in Shelton's name, to be used to develop a facility for teaching about nature in the park. We're thinking about perhaps one of those covered areas with benches facing an area where the ranger or naturalist can stand to give talks or demonstrations. Metroparks is still working on a proposal for such a project, but in the meantime, we are accepting contributions. Checks can be made out to "Columbus Metroparks" with a notation in the memo of "Three Creeks, Shelton Kang Memorial Fund". These may be mailed to me at my home address, 75 W. Hartsdale Ave. #19, Hartsdale, NY 10530. I will send them on to Metroparks after they've set up a fund number for the account. Contributions are of course tax-deductible.

Harriet


What a weekend! Friday 4/6 Mary D. came down from Michigan and stopped at our house to visit and get a ride to Shelton's memorial service. It was our first chance to see Harriett. She was looking very New Yorker in her black pant suit. I don't think we had seen her so dressed up!

The service was wonderful. The Air Force sent an honor guard to present a flag to Harriett and play taps. Then one of Shelton's stepsons, Tommy gave a beautiful eulogy. He left time for people to share memories of Shelton. Everytime someone told a story we would all nod and smile. Harriett had Shelton's beloved pith helmet on display with some of his running shirts and great poster collage with his running medals. Afterwards we went to a restaurant that Shelton and his family had gone to for years and had a wonderful italian dinner. I don't think we were quite as loud as the Manhattan contingent - I never saw anyone get up and move away, but we all had a great time sharing more Shelton stories and making plans to meet up on Saturday after our runs.

Lisa


Here's the obituary from the Columbus Dispatch:

Shelton P. Kang, age 60, Wednesday, March 28, 2007, White Plains, NY.

Veteran USAF. Owner of Amateur Radio Sales and Service. Volunteer Columbus Public Library and with the Columbus Metro Parks. Member of the Penguin Running Club and Whitehall Chamber of Commerce. He completed The New York City Marathon and The Columbus Marathon. Preceded in death by wife Linda M. Kang, parents Drs. Dora and Bun Kang. Survived by step-sons, Larry (Laurie) Dauber, Rob (Amy) Dauber, Tom (Rebeccah) Dauber; step-grandchildren, Adam, Jonathan, Anika, Andrew; sister, Dr. Harriet Kang; other relatives and many friends. Memorial service, Friday, April 6, 2007, 6 p.m., EVANS FUNERAL HOME, 4171 E. Livingston Ave., where friends may call 1 hour prior to service. Tom Dauber officiating. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Franklin County Metro Parks, 1069 W. Main Street,, Westerville, OH 43081. www.evansfuneralhome.net.
Published in The Columbus Dispatch on 4/4/2007.


First post by Julia, letting us know the sad news, March 28:

a large void was created today...
How will it ever be filled?

I spoke with Harriet about 20 minutes ago and a few of you already know this. And since there is never a good way to tell someone that there was a passing into the next life, I'll just go ahead and say it.

She asked that I write to let everyone know that her brother Shelton passed away this afternoon from cardiac arrest in Harriet's living room in Hartsdale.

They were getting ready to go on vacation, and she heard him downstairs making unusual sounds. She went down and he was on the floor. She administered CPR and managed to call EMS while doing so. They worked on him at Harriet's house unsuccessfully. She is currently at the hospital in White Plains. She plans to have him cremated and will take him to his home in Columbus and to his beloved Linda. She also plans to have a Celebration of Happiness to honor and pay tribute to his memory.

Shelton was a happy person. He was probably the happiest person I knew. I guess I still know him... My fondest memories of him making me irritable with his long monologues about this and the other, knowing all the while I was getting more impatient, and laughing louder and louder about it. And then telling me that he loves to make me irritated.

He was also one of the kindest people I know. He had recently sent me complete recordings of the first and second season of 24, just because I had mentioned in passing a month ago that I would be renting it from Netflix.

He was the big brother I never had and I have to thank Harriet for introducing him to me. She is, after all, the big sister I never had.

I think that Shelton would want us to be happy for him. Living with congestive heart failure, he once told me that he had far surpassed his time here on earth, and every additional second he stood breathing and living was a gift.

Harriet reminded me that Shelton would want us to be happy for him. To celebrate his life and his wonder - one of the smartest people I know who still maintained the innocence of wonder at things that happened over and over gain. He once told me that life always amazed him, that people always amazed him. That things changed so quickly but it was all so much the same. And that people never changed. :o)) Shelton would want us to laugh and be happy. And if we can do that when we think of him, he will live immortal in our smiles and our laughter.

I will miss you, Shelton Kang.
As we wave farewell from our shore, your shadow grows fainter.
But on the other side, there will be shouts of joy from those who are watching for your approach.

Keep paradise warm for us. And when we meet we will laugh together once more.

Rest in peace.

My heart,
Julia


Posts by the running community, most recent ones at the top of the list:

Harriet,

I couldn't believe I was reading that Shelton has passed. I did not have the honor of meeting him in person but am grateful for his inspirational posts letting us into his world.

Harriet, you are a wonderful sister. The experiences Shelton was able to enjoy because of your help are remarkable. Shelton was an exceptional brother and friend as has been testified by many in this group.

I know we've all been saying that Shelton had a great life and was thankful for every moment he had left on this earth, but It's still very hard on the soul to lose someone we love.

Ron, thank you for posting the pictures of Shelton.

My prayers and thoughts are with you Harriet and with the rest of the penguin family lucky enough to know him.

With deepest sympathy,

Pam in MN


We had a really wonderful get-together on Saturday (3/31) to celebrate Shelton's life. About fifteen Penguins and friends gathered at La
Finestre, the Penguin pre-NYCM pasta dinner venue. Daniel set up a slide show on his computer, and we had both printed out many photos of Shelton at races and walks. We had delicious Italian food and great wine (thanks to Joe B and Ken W, who chose wines that did NOT come in gallon jugs), and we shared funny Shelton stories. Of course, most Shelton stories are funny. I knew that it was a successful gathering when a couple came in, sat near our long table, and after a few minutes got up and moved to the other end of the restaurant! One of our guests was a woman who had gone to high school with Shelton, and who was supposed to see him for the first time since then on the evening that he died. We exposed her to the Penguin cult, and I think that we're going to get her to start walking.

The gathering included Julia & Joe from Boston, and J'net from Maryland. We also had Daniel & Vaira, Ellen & Ken Weissman, Jorge & Silvia Sanchez (and young Lucas), Mike Weber, and Lori Braun.

Jorge and Silvia pointed out that there was a race in Central Park the next morning, so the three J's stayed over at my house and we went in on Sunday for the Scotland 10K. Last-minute registration went smoothly, and I got lots of hugs from local running club friends. J'net, who came to cheer, got a free knit cap with a Scottish design. The weather was almost perfect - in the low 40's at the start, and overcast. There was a bit of mist or drizzle at times, enough to keep us comfortably cool. I think that everyone ran well. I certainly did better than I expected, finishing in under 1:20. I did take walk breaks, but there were several times when I wanted to walk but thought about Shelton toughing it out on hills and in bad weather, and then I could keep up the running a bit longer.

I'll be heading to Columbus tomorrow where we will be having a service for Shelton on Friday, followed by the Celebratory Dinner - Ohio
division. Hopefully most of the local Penguins will be able to make it, although Cher plans to be celebrating the Buckeye's NCAA title
somewhere. Then we will have a run and brunch at one of the Metroparks on Saturday.

Harriet


In memory of Shelton, I ran the Cooper River Bridge Run in Charleston, SC this past Saturday. It was beautiful running weather-for the southerners, it may have been a little chilly 58 to start and completely overcast. The sun did not come out till much later but those nasty No Seeums did come out in mega swarms and I have the welts to prove it. Friday night I had written all the necessary info on the back of my Bib# and also the following " I dedicate this 10K run in memory of Shelton--a fellow runner/walker who passed away this week. Shelton is running /walking his final race. Our penguin family will miss you Shelton ----now run like the wind toward that finish line"
I finished in 1:23:17 and shaved 2min 16 sec off last years time which for me is a PR on the New Bridge but my best time was 1:15:54 on the 2 old bridges in 04 so you could say that Shelton helped me "GET OVER IT!"

Just a note for Kay ---plenty of water at the finish.

Daria glad to be home in Utica NY (looking forward to CMM)


Karen thank you so much for sharing that. As I read it I remembered it. I remember him sharing the loss of Connie and its impact on his grief for Linda. I remember the last little bit especially about his world getting smaller.

I hope then that us Penguins gave him a little respite from his shrinking world.
And now, enveloped and carried by the Love of those who knew him, and reunited with his Linda, Connie and others, he can fly free.

Jenny, in Australia


My words about Shelton have been slow in coming. The day after he died, as I was sorting penguin messages to print and send to Harriet, a most mysterious thing happened.

A message that Shelton posted to several penguin groups last fall about his sister-in-law Connie's death just popped out at me in the file I was sorting. It was a big file and I wasn't looking for posts from Shelton, so I deemed this appearance important. The subject line was "Sharing Grief," which is exactly what Shelton did in a beautiful, deeply felt message that was the more moving because it was so uncharacteristic of his usual cheery self.

I'm convinced Shelton was making himself felt to me through this, which was not, I must say, his only visitation after passing. The message leapt into view simultaneously with the proliferation of "Shelton Kang's day in history" messages which appeared on one penguin list, a Yahoo glitch that forwarded every message of sorrow and condolence to the group about twelve times each. I could just hear Shelton giggling over that!

Many people have written of that enormous smile of Shelton's that explodes through the camera lens and reaches out to grab you in every one of the many photos being shared by friends now.

But his message on grief planted itself firmly in my mind after I found it, wondering why. About that time, Bill H suggested re-posting messages by Shelton. I didn't because I thought it might be too much. As I read and re-read it, though, I realized it's a measure of the man--of the depth of his love, his caring, his sorrow-every bit as much as his joyful smile and spirit.

So here it is. It has served to remind me what a privilege it was to have this man-who showered us with smiles, showed us how to live with gusto, and opened his heart to the world-among us. Our world seems a bit smaller, too, with his absence.

Karen B

From: On Behalf Of spkang@pol.net
Sent: Thursday, October 12, 2006 1:25 PM
Subject: Sharing grief, NRC

Dear Friends;

I have far more friends scattered throughout the country and among Penguins than I have locally. I have learned that sharing an unfortunate circumstance among friends can reduce the consequences through a form of dilution. This was certainly the case after I lost Linda and possibly an important factor in why I am still here.

Linda came from a large family. We lost her parents some time ago and as is so typical, her mother was the primary binder for the clan. Linda largely took over for her mother and with the loss of Linda, the remaining cohesive force was gone and everyone scattered. The totally unexpected loss of Linda's brother, Bob, who became the male head of clan, seven weeks later, pretty much severed any remaining ties among the remaining siblings.

Connie and Rich, Linda's younger sister and her husband, were the exception. They were always extremely close to Linda and me and remained so after her death. Although they relocated from Columbus to the Phoenix area to be closer to one of their daughters, the communication ties were constant. About a year ago, both of them started having some health
issues. rich's turned out, after a few notable panics, to not be so serious. Connie was having problems with what seemed to be the early
stages of diabetes, not a big surprise as the family genetic package was a bit of a bombshell. Linda and one of the two remaining sisters also shared this concern.

What concerned me, as it does in any similar case, is that the communications stopped. I get very concerned when that happens with any friend that has been in close contact. To place it in context, Connie's first two grandchildren are far closer to me than any of mine. My inquiries produced that Connie was diligently doctoring for these health issues with the goal of averting future consequences. That made some sense.

About a week ago, Lad, my eldest, called me to say that Connie had been diagnosed with cancer a couple of days earlier. Initially it was stated to be ovarian in nature. Given Linda's history, that raised a bit of anger on my part. It was later determined to be solely pancreatic in nature and in some manner, though equally lethal, that provided a small amount of relief. She had been told that she had about six months left, but that was based from the start of stage four. Connie was well past that point and I was hoping that she could make it past Thanksgiving. In my heart I knew the end of the year was unlikely. I recently lost a neighbor and friend of over 30 years to pancreatic cancer. I visited her on the day of diagnosis for quite a while and we basically said goodbye. Two weeks later, she was gone.

Early yesterday evening, Lad called to tell me that Connie had left two hours earlier. That call was followed by one from Rich with the same notice. We shared our grief and I expressed, genuinely, that I knew what he would go through. With my experience, I offered any support or advice I could render. He indicated that he would probably be taking me up on that. He sounded reasonably good, given the circumstances. He told me that Connie had decided not to pursue any medical intervention. She had been lucid largely to the end and they all had and made use of the ample opportunity to say everything in their hearts. She had not suffered beyond a bit of discomfort the final two days. She was just my age. The scenario was much the same as with Linda. In her case, it resulted in far less grieving and regrets at the funeral. Given the outcome, it is the best result.

Aside from the past few years, Connie and Rich had spent their lives in Ohio, most of it in the Columbus area. The funeral will be held here, arranged by Evans Funeral Home, who has taken care of all the Santos and our mom and dad. The owner, Madelyn, is actually a family friend, going back to when she and the Santo sisters were of high school age. Connie had requested that she be cremated and not interred. Rather, like what I have done with part of Linda's ashes, she wants to be scattered here and there, probably during travels. The funeral will be Sunday, the 29th.

As many of you know, Linda has been scattered all about the country, and just about everywhere in NYC. She has also been placed at the start or finish line of many events and has been carried during each and every one that I have done. Madelyn, who knew Linda more than twice as long as I, validated that nothing would have pleased her more. It has also been one of those tools for survival for me.

I have the distinct impression, that with each of these deaths, my world is getting a bit smaller. Losing Connie is like losing a bit of Linda all over again. Please say a prayer for all of us.

Shelton


Today was the running of the Hogeye marathon in Fayetteville, Arkansas. Harriet Kang and I were registered for the half and Shelton was to run the 5k.
After I heard of Sheltons passing I felt in my heart Shelton could still run in this race, if , I was to run it in his memory. Thanks to the pictures posted at tricharlotte.com , I was able to print a picture of Shelton to pin to the back of my shirt. I had picked up their packets at the expo, so I folded Sheltons bib and put it in my pocket.I wanted others to see Shelton, to know he was in the Hogeye race!
I had planned to run this race very easy because it is an extremely difficult course, the hardest I have ever run. It is one hill after another, with maybe 1 mile total in flats! But I felt good and I'm sure I had help, because I finished in 2:09:06 taking second in my age group!
I talked to Shelton a lot today especially the last mile.It was something I never got the privilege of doing while he was alive. I felt the urge to keep going even when the going got very tough.
It was my honor to carry Shelton with me today....I wish we could have met in person. I even stayed after the race today and cheered every last runner in....something I had never done before...I think it's what he would have wanted.
Becky S


I'll miss Shelton and the way he'd light up the room or outdoor space with his unbridled enthusiasm and perspective on life. I've
posted two of my favorite pictures in the Shelton photo folder. One was taken at Mile 13 in the NYC 2004 Marathon. Yeah, yeah, I know we're color coordinated and all smiles . . . but then that's because Shelton brings out the best in all of us. The other photo was taken at the finish line on a very hot, HOT 2005 New Year's Eve run in New York's Central Park.

We've lost a great treasure and yet I know Shelton will live on in our memories as the inspiring force he's been in life. Harriet, my
thoughts are with you. You've been the best sister a brother can have.

Ken Weissman

New York City


Hey My Sweet Harriet......my walking partner in my first post cancer race! And LONG time Penguin friend!

Your brother was SO awesome! He sent me cards, e-mails and special gifts I will cherish! I even got to talk to him on the phone! He was always cheering me on during the past year.

The Angels are dancing they have received one of the best!

I will be thinking of you at the celebration, I will be there in spirit!

Special Love Coming Your Way and Flipper Hugs!

God Bless,

Lizzy :)


Julia,

I will be celebrating in spirit. And Harriet, you will be in my thoughts and prayers for sure.

Thanks to all who have shared stories and photos of Shelton. I met him in person only briefly one time before the Columbus marathon (that I recall), but I will remember his zest for life forever.

A life lived WELL is a great thing, and there is much to be learned from his example.

Dave


I am so sorry to hear about Shelton's passing. I only saw him in person a couple times, but I loved his quiet--mischievous--spirit on
the lists. I'm sure we all could name something that Shelton taught us. This is what he taught me:

Never let the fear of a prematurely shortened life prevent you from experiencing the fullest, richest life possible.

My sincere sympathies to Harriet and to all of us who grieve his loss.

Kathy


Good morning all. Just want to write a short note to let you know that Shelton will be honored. As some know he was a fixture and had walked every one of the half marathons at the Columbus Distance Classic. The race this year is on Saturday April 14. There is now a short note about Shelton and a couple of pictures of him on the race page. www.columbusdistanceclassic.com There will be a moment of silence for him just before the start of the race. So if any of you want to see a picture of him, you can see it there.

Mary D


I want to take a belated moment to thank you all for your sympathy and support at this difficult time. I've just spent several hours going through digital photos for pictures to share at the Celebratory Dinner - Eastern Division, which we will have at a restaurant in Manhattan tomorrow afternoon. He really did seem to smile a lot! We will have lots of memories to share over dinner.

I feel better knowing that he really packed a lot of life into the extra years that he didn't expect to have. His congestive heart failure was diagnosed in 2002. I think that the walking and the many friends that he made through walking helped him survive the loss of his wife in 2003.

I just tidy'd up the house a bit for the folks who will be staying over, and I have to see a kid in the ICU tomorrow morning, so I'm off to bed now.

Feeling your hugs,
Harriet


Hi all.
Harriet's laptop is broken so she asked that I write to you to invite you all to the Celebration of Life in memory of Shelton.

Harriet is hosting a Memorial Dinner on Saturday (this weekend, 3/31) at La Finestra in NYC at 4pm.

This is the traditional pre-marathon Penguin/Dead dinner venue that Daniel puts together every year.

It's on the corner of York and 73rd on the East side.

All are welcome if you can attend.

Hopefully, Joe and I will see you there.

Julia


If Sheldon was such a joy in OUR lives, and he was, just think of how much joy he spread to other people who were lucky enough to meet him. How can anyone not gain joy from someone so radiant? I hope Sheldon realized how much joy he spread. If I could make people as happy as Sheldon could, then I'd think I was a success. I need to work on my happy face.

Love you Harriet!!! We'll keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

Billiam


This is on the LaSalle Bank Columbus Marathon Site, written by John Bingham

In Memorium

You probably don't know Shelton Kang. There's no reason why you should. He was never one to try to bring attention to himself. Shelton was, simply put, one of the most courageous men I have ever known. Shelton suffered from congestive heart failure, something I'm sure he considered an inconvenience given his love of life and his indomitable spirit.

Shelton was a fixture at The LaSalle Bank Columbus Half Marathon. He had completed every one of them, including the "blizzard"race in 2005. He started an hour before anyone else, but managed somehow, with determination and will power
to walk every step in spite of his heart condition.

My favorite "Shelton Moment"was at the finish of the Blizzard Race seeing him sitting on front of the propane heaters, soaked to the skin, shaking all over, but with a huge smile on his face. That was Shelton. His happiness was contagious.

Shelton passed away on Wednesday, March 28, in New York City. In his own words he said that he had far surpassed his time here on earth, and every additional second he stood breathing and living was a gift.

His greatest gift was the joy he so freely gave anyone who met him.


In a message dated 3/30/2007 11:15:33 AM Pacific Standard Time,
ehasbrouck@... writes:

I could hear Shelton's laugh all the way into Manhattan.

No doubt. I thinks it resounds further even than that . I never met him... which I am very sorry about because I have met his sister and that made me want to meet him as well . I love laughter and humor . He had those, it came across in words on a page . He found life funny and interesting and thats my kind of person. Its a good story and we are lucky to have shared even a small
part of it. Harriet you are a good sister and I am sure he was a good brother to you . He lived until he died and I highly respect that attitude. It is a loss, for those who knew him well and for those who knew him only thru the written word or the laughter in the streets. Its a void but we can live life fully and laugh a great deal in that way we honor his memory Take care of yourself Harriet you are on my mind each day

Nancy


I know a lot of us have spent the last couple of days of thinking about Shelton and the light that he brought into so many lives. I can't put my hands on any photos of him just yet, but I have a picture in my head that is so "Shelton" that I just wanted to share it.

A couple of years ago Shelton walked the NYCM with his buddy Bo. They took the early start and Ken and I happened to catch up to them around Mile 16 which is on the 59th Street Bridge. To me, this is the absolute worst point of the NYCM course--it's dark, it's a BIG hill, the running lane is narrow and it just seems to go on forever. As Ken and I slowly prodded our way up the bridge I could see a group of people ahead of us who seemed to be having far too good a time given the circumstances. Before I could pick out anyone in particular in the dim light I heard a laugh that could only belong to one person--Shelton. As we reached the group it was clear that Shelton and Bo had picked up quite a little coterie of people. Shelton was apparently "holding court"--keeping everyone amused throughout that miserable climb. We stopped for a minute and exchanged greetings, and when we eventually continued on I think I could hear Shelton's laugh all the way into Manhattan.
That image still makes me smile.

He knew how to pack every moment with life. I'm grateful that Harriet brought him to us.

--Ellen


I ran my first 1/2 marathon with Harriet - and I've always thought of her as a friend. I've ALWAYS looked forward to
Shelton's e-mails. I never said anything, but he was just part of the group.

I have to admit that I cried when I read Julia's e-mail - cried about someone I've never ever met - but felt. Oh, Harriet - what a loss - my sympathies are *SOOO*** with your family. What an empty space - what a loss!!!

As for Shelton - his spirit that I read in his e-mails - he's dancing in heaven!

Take care.

Annette
f/k/a/ Roo


Richard and I had the pleasure of meeting Shelton many years ago at the Columbus Marathon. Unfortunately, we never encountered him in person again. However, his posts in this forum have been a bright spot in the days that he graced us with his thoughts. Julia was so right....a large void has been created.

Harriet, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Kathleen


He was a dear kind man with the best smile ever...he's really going to be missed.

Kecia, in St. Louis


I didn't have the honour of ever meeting Shelton, but read about his exploits through his race reports and Harriet's. It's devastating to
lose a brother and a fellow Penguin. My sympathy to Harriet's family during this difficult time.

I am dedicating my long run this weekend to Sheldon's memory.

Jo in To


My thoughts are with Harriet and her family with Shelton's passing. A light has definitely gone out here in the Columbus running community. And in NYC. And Utah. And Colorado. And anywhere and everywhere else that Shelton traveled. I don't think I've ever known anyone else who took such unabashed and childlike joy in life, no matter what curveballs life threw at him. And such a big heart, too.

I wondered what was up with Yahoo yesterday until I read Julia's message. I cannot help but think that it is no mere coincidence that
Yahoo mail started acting up the very day that Shelton died. I think it's just his impish and merry way of letting us all know that he's
made it to the other side and is just fine.

Today, in honor of Shelton, I think I will put aside my petty cares and concerns and the minor annoyances of life and make a serious and concerted effort to LAUGH at whatever comes my way.

Mel J
Columbus, OH


After reading about Shelton, I put my sneakers on and went for a 5 mile run. The first song I heard was the one that goes "I hope you had the time of your life." And I think Shelton did--from his posts it was clear that he did. And then I started smiling thinking Shelton must be chuckling about Yahoo and the multiple posts---I mean, who gets to have their name in the subject line again and again and again! This ensures that no one on the list could miss the postings! Maybe it's just Shelton's way of making sure
we all know. I, too, would love to make a contribution to a cause--so let me know.
Bonnie in MA


I would too, Harriet, and I add my condolences to the others.

I never knew your brother, but when I first joined this list, someone shared some of Shelton's race reports with me. I found them so inspirational and encouraging when thinking of my own "limitations" which are largely self made. They were long, but they were wonderful - full of details and uplifting information.

He was very special - and I used to enjoy his many posts - especially when he would talk about his "Linda". The one nice thing is the thought that they are together again.

Shelton was a great example of making lemonade out of lemons - persevering and accomplishing great things despite living with his severe health issues. I was happy to have his "e quaintance".

Farewell and God's blessing to you Shelton - you and Linda enjoy the "lemonade".

Harriet - please let us know if there is any memorial we can contribute to.

Linda


Harriet

I'm so sorry to hear this news. I know your brother's passing will leave a huge void in your heart and your life.

Shelton was a special guy. His kind manner and joyful attitude touched all who came in contact with him. I must say that personally I was always very inspired by his training efforts and loved reading his race reports.

When my father suffered his heart attack last spring, I held the image of Shelton and his success despite a severely impaired heart, close inside me. That helped give me hope for my dad's recovery. As part of his cardiac rehab Dad was told to walk. So this January I bought him a Garmin 301. He hasn't embraced racing like the rest of us crazy birds, but I haven't given up hope for him yet. Next time I chat with Dad about his training, I'll share with him about Shelton's amazing racing and maybe that seed will grow into a new Penguin runner. It would be truly fitting.

I would love to contribute towards a charity or memorial in Shelton's honour. If anyone has any details of Harriet and Shelton's wishes
please pass them on.

Flipper hugs
Carlene


Shelton Kang was an open-hearted and joyful, gentle man.

Being with him, reading his letters greatly enriched my life. I am grateful to him for his example of living well, living fully. The letters he wrote about Linda and how they lived out their life together have given me guidance as to how John and I might walk that path.

I have in my heart a narrow album entitled Grace. Shelton has been in that album for a good while now, he will always be there. Grace
is mysterious and powerful. Sitting here, looking out at the sun and fresh grass, I am graced by the memory of Shelton.

Harriet, my heart goes out to you. What an amazing brother-sister team you were.

The stories read like "The Adventures of Harriet and Shelton in ____________". What fun.

After I lost my brother, David, I felt he said to me, "Expect the best." This is a challenge for me; I am working on it. Shelton was a
living lesson in how to "expect the best."

My condolences to you, Harriet, and your family.

Kathryn


Harriett I hope you don't mind but I sent a message to Jeff Glaze of Premier Sports. I knew he was one of Shelton's biggest fans and always made special arrangements for him to start his races early.

The last time I saw Shelton he was working a water stop at a half marathon. I was having a horrible day and it was so nice to see his smiling face as he handed out cups of water and encouragement to the runners. That's what I will miss most about him, his constant smile. But now he is up in heaven and I am sure he is breaking that 10 hour marathon. Heck, he's proably breaking 4!

Lisa


Seeing the splash of PINK in the Bronx will always be a favorite memory of both Linda and Shelton. Never have I seen such an enthusiastic scream team.

I'll also remember an individual that I never saw without a smile on his face and who wasn't afraid to giggle at the silliest thing. I'm glad that Shelton was able to enjoy life until the end. I could have never pictured him as a person that slowly declined as heart failure took its course. Nope, go out with a bang, Shelton, and be happy that you've left a mark behind.

Harriet, my sympathies.

Cher


Oh my.

Julia...that may well be one of the kindest things I've ever read.

My thoughts, my prayers to Harriet and all.

Bill Hermann
SanDiego


Oh my! I'm so sadden by the news. My thoughts and prayers are with you Harriet! May the grace of God be with your brother!

Hugs,
Mindy


Thanks for writing and letting us know about this Julia. I am shocked by this news --having just written on Shelton's 60th Birthday
how youthful Shelton was. He was so great to Heidi and me at the NYCM--taking pictures and giving Heidi advice for her first marathon.
My heart goes out to Harriet-this is a huge loss for everyone who ever met Shelton. I am so glad as brother and sister that they were together when this happened. There have been so many wonderful posts about Harriet and Shelton's "adventures" that, indeed, a celebration in happiness will make a wonderful tribute. And to Harriet, your family and friends--- my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Bonnie in MA


My prayers and thoughts are with Harriet and her family. Shelton was a man that taught us so many lessons about life. He has touched so many people in so many ways. I am going to miss his posts to the group. This is a difficult thing to accept because he was taken from us too soon. I will remember all his posts and how I could feel his smile coming through them.

With deepest sympathy,

Patti in St. Louis


Its been a few hours now since i read Marys post about Shelton, and i cant stop thinking about it and having wet eyes. I guess this is the best place to come together to share how we feel, as no-one else around here knows him nor understands our internet 'family'.

I feel really sad, and regret not replying to his last email. in fact i had been thinking about him while in TARGET shopping today, as one of our conversations was about who was first - Target Australia, or Target America. (Target Australia is older, but they are not the same company.) So was planning to write back to him tonight when i got home. But i got this news instead.

I could tell he was lovely and kind, and wish that i could have known his laugh that some of you have recalled so fondly. I am grateful for the chance to know him just a little. Big cyber hugs for those of you who are grieving today.

Jenny, in Australia.


Oh my. I can't believe it. The tears will not stop coming.

I never met a person who had more joy and grace than Shelton.

I watched him with his beloved Linda, and saw his heart.

He would come all the way up to the Bronx and cheer for us with that
megaphone at mile 20.5 of the NYC Marathon.

He was always smiling, laughing, and giving.

I had planned for a couple of years to go walk a marathon with him, just to
be in his presence as he did what he loved. I regret I never made that
happen.

His spirit and love for life will live on forever, as he touched so many of
us in so many ways.

May God hold his entire family - and all of us who count him as our friend -
in His loving arms and provide peace and comfort. Let memories of Shelton
keep him in your hearts forever.

ron in charlotte


Mary, thank you for letting us know. I had never met Shelton but had met
Harriet. What a nice woman she is and my heart goes out to her---the two of them
were a "team"
As a tribute to a fellow runner---Saturday's 10K will be run in Shelton's
memory.

Daria



Please give Harriet my regards also and tell her I regret I did not get to
meet Shelton at this coming Sundays Hogeye half.
But I will run it in memory and celebration of his life!
My thoughts and prayers will be with the family.
In deepest sympathy
Becky S

Shelton and i had been enjoying exchanges for the last month or so. He had been
very curious about climate change and its effect around the world. I guess he
was a curious soul as we got onto all sorts of subjects that seemed 'trivial'.
But it always became interesting.

We had been swapping google earth co-ordinates and seeing where we lived and
worked. And crusoe and i just sent him a postcard last weekend, which he wont
get now.

Harriet, while you are celebrating Sheltons life, I also want you to know you
are in my heart while you grieve.

And Mary, thank you for letting us know, and for sharing your love for him and
your own sense of loss.

Times like this reminds me of how important you all have become to me.

Jenny, in Australia.


Please give my regards to Harriet and family. Shelton will definitely be
missed on the list.

Marathon John in San Antonio


Harriet, Julia, and others. Your loss is our loss.

Peace, George Statler

 

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